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The Hidden Costs of Cultural Code-Switching
Why switching languages, tone, and identity abroad taxes your nervous system — and what the research says about cultural code-switching.
Aug 7
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Kay Fabella
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July 2026
Your Nervous System Adjusted to Life Abroad Before You Did
What long‑term life abroad does to your nervous system: why your baseline moves, why big crises feel manageable, and the whole picture I wish someone…
Jul 31
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Kay Fabella
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2
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The Interior Country You Build After Years Abroad
A reflection on the “interior country” long‑term expats carry: how life across borders reshapes your nervous system, and a guided audio to visit that…
Jul 24
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Kay Fabella
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6
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You've Been Rehearsing Pre-Acceptable Answers for Years
A non‑clinical look at how long‑term life abroad shapes our nervous system: pre‑written answers, self‑translation, and the dynamics inside every room.
Jul 17
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Kay Fabella
7
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What I Didn't Expect in the Room Where I Shared Your Stories
A counsellor-in-training shares what it felt like to present migratory grief research to intercultural practitioners in Valencia — and the hug that…
Jul 10
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Kay Fabella
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What Long-Term Expatriation Does to Your Nervous System
On why things can still feel hard even when your life abroad works on paper.
Jul 3
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Kay Fabella
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June 2026
Before You Land "Back Home"
On the disorientation that starts before you land back home after life abroad — and why it makes sense.
Jun 26
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Kay Fabella
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1
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The Low-Grade Hum: What Long-Term Expats Carry That Nobody Names
On migratory grief, chronic liminality, and why long-term expats don't feel entitled to name what they're carrying
Jun 19
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Kay Fabella
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Vivian
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1
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When the Most Helpful Thing You Can Do While Abroad is Stay
A reflection from counselling training on why staying with not‑knowing can matter more than fixing, especially for expats living in the in‑between.
Jun 19
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Kay Fabella
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3
When Going Home Feels Like Starting Over
On the grief of returning somewhere familiar when you're no longer the person who left.
Jun 12
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Kay Fabella
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20
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The Return That Isn't: Coming Home After Years Abroad
On reverse culture shock, the map that changed, and why homecoming isn't simple.
Jun 5
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Kay Fabella
6
3
May 2026
Migratory Grief: What No One Prepared You For Abroad
On migratory grief and the losses abroad that don't have a name — and why they're harder to carry for long-term expats, immigrants, and globally mobile…
May 29
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Kay Fabella
17
7
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